Building Character in Your Child

a great resolution for 2015

Do you want to build character into your child?  Do you want your child to have good character? In the early days of America, building men and women of good character, with solid values, was a principal focus of fathers.

Listen to John Quincy Adams’ thoughts as expressed in a letter to his wife in 1774: “Above all cares of this life, let our ardent anxiety be to mould the minds and manners of our children…The education of our children is never out of my mind. Train them to virtue. Habituate them to industry, activity, and spirit.”

The industrial age stripped fathers of this focus. Child raising, including the building of character and the forming of values, became exclusively the mother’s domain.

Our sons and daughters, more than ever because of the powerful force of elements in our pop culture, need critical input from us dads to shape good character. It is a war – and the prize is the inner spirit of your child.  It will help determine how your child faces life’s tough challenges.

Dad, you need to be on the front line, conducting both a defensive and an offensive on your child’s behalf. Being on the front line means using our moments with each child wisely, making a positive impression for the purpose of character building, values formation, and spiritual development.

This would be a terrific resolution to make for 2015. [more to follow the first week of 2015]

If you are interested in helping your children develop good character, consider taking our online video training in Basic #5 “Instilling Moral and Spiritual Values”.

Make Life a Lot of Fun

Be Creative

The story (related by Bruce Larson) goes like this.

“I have a great friend down in Montgomery, Alabama, and a few years ago he told me an unforgettable story of a summer vacation he had planned for his wife and his children. He was unable to go himself because of business, but he helped them plan every day of a camping trip in the family station wagon.

He knew their route exactly and the precise time they would be crossing the Great Divide. So, my friend arranged to fly himself out to the nearest airport and hire a car and a driver to take him to a place which every car must pass. He sat by the road for several hours waiting for the sight of that familiar station wagon. When it came into view, he stepped out on the road and put his thumb out to hitchhike a ride with the family who assumed that he was 3000 miles away.

I said to him, “Coleman, I’m surprised that didn’t drive off the road in terror or drop dead of a heart attack. What an incredible story. Why did you go to all that trouble? “Well Bruce,” he said, “someday I’m going to be dead, and when that happens, I want my kids and my wife to say, ‘you know, Dad was a lot of fun.’”

Wow, I thought. Here is a man whose whole game plan is to make fun and happiness for other people. It made me wonder what my family will remember about me. I’m sure they will say, ‘Well, Dad was a nice guy but he sure worried a lot about putting out the lights and closing the windows and picking up around the house and cutting the grass.’ But I’d also like them to be able to say that Dad was the guy who made life a lot of fun.”

Dad, will your kids 5 or 30 years from now say, “Dad made life a lot of fun?”

Have a fun story to share about your family?  Please let everyone share in the fun – and hopefully pass it on.