Build Them Up

A Foundational Way to Provide Unconditional Love

It’s always helpful to get down to the fathering basics. And Basic #1 of “The 6 Basics of Being a Great Dad” is Provide Unconditional Love. And one of the foundational ways to provide unconditional love to your children is to build them up.

Here is why “build them up” is so important. Joe White, who runs a Christian camp for teens, has discovered this truth: every tragic teen problem has a common root which is low self-image. And the #1 cause of poor self-image: lack of unconditional parental love.

Consider what kids are up against. From their parents, they hear 10 negative comments for every positive one.   At school, they hear 10 negative to each positive. It is little wonder that one study found that when children enter first grade, 80% feel good about themselves but when they leave 6th grade, only 10% feel good about themselves.

Remember that the foundation for all self-esteem is this: a person’s basic value comes from God. We are created in the very image of God. That gives each person infinite value.

So affirm your children. God is an affirming father: “This is my son whom I love; with him I am well pleased.” Many children today are starving to hear those types of affirming words from their father.

Give your children ongoing gifts by affirming them with your words of love and praise.

Check out my next post for some practical do’s and don’ts for building your children up.


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