One-on-One Times With your Child

They WILL Be Fondly Remembered

Do you ever wonder if the one-on-one times you spend with your child are really “hitting home” with them? That your child is finding it meaningful in any way – that it will be something they remember later in life?

There’s a terrific true story that should greatly encourage you about your one-on-one times with your child.

It is said of Boswell, the famous biographer of Samuel Johnson, that he often referred to a special day in his childhood when his father took him fishing. The day was fixed in his adult mind, and he often reflected upon many of the things his father had taught him in the course of their fishing experience together.

After having heard of that particular excursion so often, it occurred to someone much later to check the journal that Boswell’s father kept and determine what had been said about the fishing trip from the parental perspective. Turning to that date, the reader found only one sentence entered: “Gone fishing today with my son; a day wasted.”

This story hits home to me because as I reflect on my youth, some of the days that I remember most clearly – and dearly – are the annual spring fishing trips taken with my dad. WHY? Simply because that is one of the few one-on-one times I had with my dad – other than an occasional golf game.

So dad, one-on-one times with your child do not need to seem meaningful or even very important in the moment. They may never be acknowledged as such by your child. But they WILL be fondly remembered by your child – for dad taking the time out to be just with me.

 

Risk To Be Free

Finding the Family/Work Balance

Many dads struggle with the balance between work and family. If you do, keep in mind these two foundational points.

It’s not really an issue of balance. It’s one of priority. I don’t have one job—I have many. My role as Father is “Job One”, the most important job God has entrusted to me

Second, you may have to take a risk. If you are one who is bound to your work, clearly at the expense of your family, then you need to set yourself free. Do you want to change? Then think of this today, which is the title of this poem.

“Think of this Today”

To laugh is to risk appearing a fool.

To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.

To reach out for another is to risk involvement.

To expose feelings is to risk exposing your true self.

To place your ideas, your dreams before the crowd is to risk their loss.

To love is to risk not being loved in return.

To live is to risk dying.

To hope is to risk despair.

To try is to risk failure.

But risks must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing. The person who risks nothing does nothing, has nothing, and is nothing. He may avoid suffering and sorrows, but he simply cannot learn, feel, change, grow, love or live. Chained by his fears, he is a slave. He is not free. Only a person who risks is free.

 Do you want to be free? Are you willing to take a risk?