Do you ever wonder if one-on-one time you spend with your child really “hits home” with them? That your child is finding it meaningful in any way – that it will be something they remember later in life?
There’s a terrific true story that should greatly encourage you about being an involved dad and your one-on-one time with your child.
It is said of Boswell, the famous biographer of Samuel Johnson, that he often referred to a special day in his childhood when his father took him fishing. The day was fixed in his adult mind, and he often reflected upon many of the things his father had taught him in the course of their fishing experience together.
After having heard of that particular excursion so often, it occurred to someone much later to check the journal that Boswell’s father kept and determine what had been said about the fishing trip from the parental perspective. Turning to that date, the reader found only one sentence entered: “Gone fishing today with my son; a day wasted.”
This story hits home to me because as I reflect on my youth, some of the days that I remember most clearly – and dearly – are the annual spring fishing trips taken with my dad. WHY? Simply because that is one of the few one-on-one times I had with my dad – other than an occasional golf game.
So dad, one-on-one times with your child do not need to seem meaningful or even very important in the moment. They may never be acknowledged as such by your child. But they WILL be fondly remembered by your child – for dad taking the time out to be an involved dad and just being there.
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